I caught the Ashley Madison documentary on Netflix. Ever tell you about the husband of a woman I worked with who got outed in that info dump? This was after I had quit, but it was such a cliché. They were a very religious couple, and not the “walk in Christ’s footsteps” kind. I’ve known a few good folks like that. These two? The other kind: self-righteous, judgmental, using the Bible to beat people down.
We used to have serious fights about sexual orientation. She thought it was a choice. Fought, fought, fought. Evolution too. She once accidentally CC’d me in an email where she told our coworkers she hated my guts. Yeah, it was that bad. But you know what they say, judge yourself by your enemies.
So, Ashley Madison. The husband, Mr. Perfect, had an account under his own name (of course) and a username: “The Ravisher.” I kid you not. THE RAVISHER.
They divorced, obviously. That’s all I know because I lost track of them, thankfully. I had forgotten all about this until the documentary jogged my memory. Honestly, I can’t imagine how anyone—THE RAVISHER included—thought things would end any other way with that website. It was a honeypot, a blackmail machine in the making. For the record, I wouldn’t know firsthand. I’m an old-fashioned, one-woman man.
That said, I’m not in the judging business either. Different strokes for different folks. It's your thing, do whatcha wanna do. If you’re into non-monogamy, best to be upfront and find people on the same page. That’s what really made THE RAVISHER the bad guy. He and Mrs. Stone Thrower should’ve had a conversation and gone their separate ways if they couldn’t work it out.
At least that's my take, but like I said, I'm old-fashioned. But not old fashioned enough to throw stones at people about their sex lives.